BigAppleBuckeye wrote: I think a lot of people just settle and wind up getting married out of convenience instead of love, which leads to disaster. I am 34 and have dated my fair share of women, and a few wanted to get married, but I knew that they weren't the one, so I broke it off. I finally met the person who I want to be with, and I have zero doubt that I made the right choice by proposing to her last July.

A lot of people get married based on various pressures, and wind up miserable for it.

She sounds swell

I think he knew you were "listening"

It's pretty good - all depends on your spouse. I enjoyed being single, but being married is a lot better.

After the first year or so, sex is more of a lubricant in a marriage (or any couple's relationship, for that matter.) It's not what drives the car - but the car won't last very long if you let it get low.

Then again - you're supposed to change your every 3000-5000 miles... hmmm...

I can't believe I've found no support for my plan on the chatter. Oh well.

Devils Advocate wrote: Imagine if you will, The best meal in the world imaginable. For the sake of argument, lets just say it's a grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad

It starts out an obsession. You just cant wait for a grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad. You dont care about much else for a while cause you have grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad.

breakfast lunch dinner, 7 days a week you have a grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad

after a while, you figure out different ways of having a porterhouse. Maybe you pan fry it, or cut it in chunks and saute it. Hell for a change you might even eat it raw but its still a grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad

It may seem like it's tedious, but you still enjoy a grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad

The problem comes in when you decide to go out on the side for some Buffalo wings or sushi.

Devils Advocate wrote:

redstreak one wrote: ^^^^ NO KIDDING on the no condoms thing! Big Time Plus!

WOW... Somebody send this memo to Mrs. Advocate!

Maybe Mrs. Advocate doesn't like her grilled Porterhouse, Baked potato and salad comingled with the sides of buffalo wings or sushi? Just sayin...lol

BigAppleBuckeye wrote: I think a lot of people just settle and wind up getting married out of convenience instead of love, which leads to disaster. I am 34 and have dated my fair share of women, and a few wanted to get married, but I knew that they weren't the one, so I broke it off. I finally met the person who I want to be with, and I have zero doubt that I made the right choice by proposing to her last July.

A lot of people get married based on various pressures, and wind up miserable for it.

I can totally relate...Im 36 and just found the one...proposed in June of last year. Sounds pretty similar.

mattinctown wrote:



If you're being serious, you've got tons to learn. You would propose to someone just to have sex with them because they are hot??? Wow.

Why not? The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air did.

sleeper wrote: I can't believe I've found no support for my plan on the chatter. Oh well.

I'm with you. Get one of your friends pose as a marriage priest of whatever! Cheap!

I've been looking at engagement rings, how much should you spend on a ring? Is there a way to take it back just in case things don't work out? I don't feel like dropping $5000 on a ring just to have her say no.

Hookers are a much better value.

sleeper wrote: I've been looking at engagement rings, how much should you spend on a ring? Is there a way to take it back just in case things don't work out? I don't feel like dropping $5000 on a ring just to have her say no.

I would say go with some cubic z's and propose. See if she'll give it up once you're "engaged".

FatHobbit wrote:

sleeper wrote: I've been looking at engagement rings, how much should you spend on a ring? Is there a way to take it back just in case things don't work out? I don't feel like dropping $5000 on a ring just to have her say no.

I would say go with some cubic z's and propose. See if she'll give it up once you're "engaged".

That'd be just mean, I don't know if I could do that to her.

She is dumb as a box though, I'd doubt she'd notice. LOL

Ghmothwdwhso wrote:

Foul Tip wrote: Marriage is like having cable with only one channel. And you watch the same movie night after night after night.

Maybe that's because you have a foul tip.!!!!!!

What does a hit ball that goes sharp and direct from the bat to the catchers glove or hands have to do with cable?

I've been married for 6 months and so far it's been good!

We just bought a house and are trying to have a small kahuna.

bigkahuna wrote: I've been married for 6 months and so far it's been good!

We just bought a house and are trying to have a small kahuna.

I thought you already had a small kahuna <_<


J/k, congrats on the marriage/house.

Being married is good, but it's a lot of work. At the end of the day, you're settling by getting married--studies show that people are happier married than single (moreso for men than for women). But the younger you get married, the fewer people you'll have met by that point, and the overall 'quality' of person you marry goes down. It's a tricky game. If you marry the first decent person you meet, you'll miss out on a lot. But if you wait for the perfect person to come along, you'll end up 45, single, and lonely.

That said, I think most of marital happiness comes from the work you put into it. You don't marry the "right" person--you become the right person. It's more about making a conscious decision to work through issues and figure things out. Forcing yourself to work through problems rather than running away from them helps you grow and mature and makes you a better person. Too many people bolt at the first sign of a problem, and this prevents them from fully developing.

There's a counseling book out there, Sacred Marriage, that argues that perhaps the point of marriage isn't to make you happy, but holy. It's an interesting idea.