KR1245
Posts: 4,317
Apr 6, 2010 4:37pm
What do you guys think about this? Did you do it? Would/will you do it? I plan on getting engaged this summer and just curious to see what you guys think.
j_crazy
Posts: 8,372
Apr 6, 2010 4:38pm
I did. But When it comes to things like this, I'm old fashioned. One of the most nervous times in my life.
Fab1b
Posts: 12,949
Apr 6, 2010 4:38pm
Negative it isn't up to him or anyone else but you and her!! I don't live in 1950!
Glory Days
Posts: 7,809
Apr 6, 2010 4:39pm
haha so what happens if the father says "no"? do people still do it?
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I Wear Pants
Posts: 16,223
Apr 6, 2010 4:40pm
Depends on the daughters relationship with her dad and your relationship with the dude.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Apr 6, 2010 4:43pm
I am gonna have to do this hre in a few months.... FML
THE4RINGZ
Posts: 16,816
Apr 6, 2010 4:44pm
I suppose it is the proper thing to do. I didn't do it however
Kind of an awkward conversation. "I've been fucking your daughter for a couple of years now and want to make it legit. You down with that ?"
Kind of an awkward conversation. "I've been fucking your daughter for a couple of years now and want to make it legit. You down with that ?"
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captain_obvious
Posts: 82
Apr 6, 2010 4:45pm
Did it, but my wife was 21 and the first of 3 daughters to be engaged. It was important to her and to him. It was funny since it was the 3rd time I tried. The first 2 times were foiled by my wife ruining it.
UA5straightin2008
Posts: 3,246
Apr 6, 2010 4:46pm
i plan on doing it
Fab1b
Posts: 12,949
Apr 6, 2010 4:47pm
I didn't the first time and I won't the next time!! I had/have (engaged now) good relationships with both dads however I just don't believe in that. She is a grown woman he has no say, like someone above asked what if he says no??
KR1245
Posts: 4,317
Apr 6, 2010 4:50pm
Good question. I'm not sure what I would do if he said no. I've got a pretty good relationship with the guy, maybe I'll take him a bottle of liquor or some cigars to help my cause
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Apr 6, 2010 4:50pm
I am pretty nervous about asking my gf's dad. I think he likes me, but he is a biker who's nickname was "Mountain" and he is best known around his area for beating the shit out of a cop back in the 70's.
Websurfinbird
Posts: 656
Apr 6, 2010 4:54pm
My fiance asked my father, which he appreciated. But when my mom found out, she was upset he didn't ask her too!
tk421
Posts: 8,500
Apr 6, 2010 4:55pm
Agreed. Unless she's underage, parents have absolutely no say.Fab1b wrote: Negative it isn't up to him or anyone else but you and her!! I don't live in 1950!
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Apr 6, 2010 4:55pm
My sister got engaged at the age of 28 and when someone asked my dad if my brother in law asked him first he said "hell no, she's 28, I was about to ask him if he would marry her for me" LOL
gorocks99
Posts: 10,760
Apr 6, 2010 4:56pm
THE4RINGZ
Posts: 16,816
Apr 6, 2010 4:56pm
My wife's father is an Italian "business owner". I figured if he didn't like the idea I would have gotten a message before the wedding.
Fab4Runner
Posts: 6,196
Apr 6, 2010 4:57pm
I wouldn't care either way. I have a good relationship with my dad and stepdad but it isn't really important to any of us. I'd he'd like to let my family know his plans fine. If not...also fine. I just hope if he does that they can keep their mouths shut. I want it to be a total surprise.
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Apr 6, 2010 4:58pm
It's like that commercialFab4Runner wrote: I wouldn't care either way. I have a good relationship with my dad and stepdad but it isn't really important to any of us. I'd he'd like to let my family know his plans fine. If not...also fine. I just hope if he does that they can keep their mouths shut. I want it to be a total surprise.
"he's such a lucky man, which is exactly what I told him when we talked last week"
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raiderbuck
Posts: 1,623
Apr 6, 2010 5:13pm
I Wear Pants wrote: Depends on the daughters relationship with her dad and your relationship with the dude.
I agree. I've always thought that if the girl has a decent relationship with her father, then yes you should ask. It's also depends on their age. If she's like 35-40 years old then there probably no need to ask lol.
But I would really appreciate if my (future) daughters boyfriend would respect my family enough to have my blessings.
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Gblock
Apr 6, 2010 5:29pm
i did it but it was set up by the wife....it was a must tho. no getting around it. it only lasted like 4 minutes.
Glory Days
Posts: 7,809
Apr 6, 2010 5:31pm
just make sure you dont wear jorts when you go ask.LJ wrote: I am pretty nervous about asking my gf's dad. I think he likes me, but he is a biker who's nickname was "Mountain" and he is best known around his area for beating the shit out of a cop back in the 70's.
Belly35
Posts: 9,716
Apr 6, 2010 5:32pm
1. Have a job before asking
2. Respect the parents
3. Show you're an adult
4. Present yourself as a respected individual
5. No criminal record is helpful
6. Get a hair cut
7. Don't mention the Ohio Chatter
8. No Chatter name dropping (don't mention my name)
9. Show a saving account/checking account
10. She not pregnant ????
11. Don’t ask if you’re drunk
12. Say Thank you when your done even if you don’t mean it
2. Respect the parents
3. Show you're an adult
4. Present yourself as a respected individual
5. No criminal record is helpful
6. Get a hair cut
7. Don't mention the Ohio Chatter
8. No Chatter name dropping (don't mention my name)
9. Show a saving account/checking account
10. She not pregnant ????
11. Don’t ask if you’re drunk
12. Say Thank you when your done even if you don’t mean it
tk421
Posts: 8,500
Apr 6, 2010 5:34pm
Ha ha, wow. It's 2010, not 1950. Good luck with that.Belly35 wrote: 1. Have a job before asking
2. Respect the parents
3. Show you're an adult
4. Present yourself as a respected individual
5. No criminal record is helpful
6. Get a hair cut
7. Don't mention the Ohio Chatter
8. No Chatter name dropping (don't mention my name)
9. Show a saving account/checking account
10. She not pregnant ????
11. Don’t ask if you’re drunk
12. Say Thank you when your done even if you don’t mean it
LJ
Posts: 16,351
Apr 6, 2010 5:36pm
And there is a good chance the girl's father grew up in the 50's, at least part of it.tk421 wrote:Ha ha, wow. It's 2010, not 1950. Good luck with that.Belly35 wrote: 1. Have a job before asking
2. Respect the parents
3. Show you're an adult
4. Present yourself as a respected individual
5. No criminal record is helpful
6. Get a hair cut
7. Don't mention the Ohio Chatter
8. No Chatter name dropping (don't mention my name)
9. Show a saving account/checking account
10. She not pregnant ????
11. Don’t ask if you’re drunk
12. Say Thank you when your done even if you don’t mean it