How do you (or I) get out of going to weddings?

like_that 1st Team All-PWN
29,228 posts 321 reps Joined Apr 2010
Mon, Mar 25, 2024 6:09 AM
posted by Automatik

I'm rather sick of traveling for other people. Call it selfish or whatever, I just dgaf anymore.

In the past 8 months, I've traveled for 2 bachelor parties and 1 wedding. The wedding was in St. John for my best friend, so I'll let that one slide.

The wedding is in Charleston. Black tie, white attire welcome party, on a plantation. I have zero desire to fork over the several thousand dollars and use the PTO to go. I just started a new job and my PTO is already very slim.

I'm approaching 40, I'm just over this shit. He's a good friend, but I wouldn't say like in my close "inner circle." I'm thinking I just RSVP no and if he asks, I blame work. 

I wouldn’t say a good friend is someone you rsvp as “no,” without any other form of communication with him.  If you think he’s a good enough friend, a courtesy text saying “hey man, I would love to come, but I can’t make it work.”  Short and to the point.  You don’t need to provide him an explanation, and imo it would be pretty ridiculous if he actually tried to fish an explanation out of you.

With that being said, I am with you being over with weddings.  I have a built in excuse of being overseas. I have one remaining good friend (not by your definition lol), where it would be a can’t miss wedding. 



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