I have a friend who just told his parents (and several friends, myself included) that he's in a polyamorous relationship. Apparently, he and another guy are dating a girl, and they all live together (Three's Company?), including her little girl from a previous marriage (to none of the current parties). The guys aren't "together," but they're both together with the girl.

I then ran across an article posted on Facebook about such a couple.

http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2012/02/14/1-woman-2-men-in-a-polyamorous-relationship-raising-a-child-in-topanga/

So, is there any reason they, as well as the couple in this article, shouldn't be allowed to get married?

Sounds like the girl found herself two halves to make 1 guy capable of supporting her and her baby.

There's something extremely wrong about two guys sharing a girlfriend....what is it, like even/odd days where she sleeps? Seems like multiple ways this would end badly.

On the other hand, Seinfeld did once address the merits of such an arrangement.

Guy #1 is basically a live in nanny. Girl basically said she is not sexually attracted to him, she just likes coming home to a clean house. Guy #2 is for sex, money, and enjoyment & he don't have to deal with feelings.

Guy #1 is getting hosed

I don't have an issue with it but I also think its weird. I also feel the same way about homosexuality but since we live in a world where everything gay is considered "normal" I don't express that opinion anywhere I'm not anonymous.

I have the same view on this as I do homosexuality.

I believe it to be morally wrong, but there are a few things:
1. I don't judge them for what they are doing.
2. I don't think the government should tell them they aren't allowed to do it.
3. If the government eventually allows poly-amorous marriages, churches/clergy who don't agree with it can not be forced to perform ceremonies.

gport_tennis;1596518 wrote:Guy #1 is basically a live in nanny. Girl basically said she is not sexually attracted to him, she just likes coming home to a clean house. Guy #2 is for sex, money, and enjoyment & he don't have to deal with feelings.

Guy #1 is getting hosed

I actually asked how the bedroom arrangements work. Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.

Also, as I understand it, all of them have jobs.

ccrunner609;1596521 wrote:guy #1 is likely gay under that scenerio

I've known him for years, and if he's gay, he's done a pretty good job faking straight all this time.

Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.

QuakerOats;1596719 wrote:Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.

And then throw out everything but the billy goat and add a hillbilly and they'd have your house!

O-Trap;1596716 wrote:I actually asked how the bedroom arrangements work. Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.

Also, as I understand it, all of them have jobs.



I've known him for years, and if he's gay, he's done a pretty good job faking straight all this time.

Talking about the article, not or friend

gport_tennis;1596741 wrote:Talking about the article, not or friend

My mistake.

Is this what that breaking Benjamin song is about??

why not just get a few more people involved and have a whole married community!

O-Trap;1596716 wrote:Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.

They both better have a lot of confidence in what they get done in the bedroom. Unless they're both closet cuckolds, I'm just not sure how that could work in the long-run. I might understand how people can have an open relationship, but I don't get how someone shares their gf in a one-way monogamous relationship.

Must be some interesting dinner conversations "You let him do WHAT?!?? Why don't you ever let me do that?"

Is it at this point that the "Define Marriage or Else" crowd earns their justification? I only ask because when "they" said that this would be the result of not defining marriage as one man/one woman, "they" were scoffed at and mocked, stating, "That will never happen!"

Whatevs.

I guess sloppy seconds is not a problem here

QuakerOats;1596719 wrote:Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.

Best post this thread. Reps to you.