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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Feb 21, 2013 9:27 AM
.. for the birth of your child?

Did you call right away? After the baby was delivered? Were family allowed in the room?

What was your siutation?
Feb 21, 2013 9:27am
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vball10set

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Feb 21, 2013 9:31 AM
We called when we were at the hospital and they (the nurses) told us "this was it". We then told them I would call them back when I felt it was close enough to the birth that they wouldn't be sitting around for hours waiting. Didn't matter though, my parents were there within the hour, and her's within two.
Feb 21, 2013 9:31am
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sleeper

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Feb 21, 2013 9:38 AM
I don't have a child. Hope this helps.
Feb 21, 2013 9:38am
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BORIStheCrusher

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Feb 21, 2013 9:51 AM
Called before we went to the hospital, everybody wanted to be there. Hell no was anybody else allowed in the room.
Feb 21, 2013 9:51am
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Belly35

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Feb 21, 2013 9:58 AM
We made arrangements to make one phone call ( my aunt ) once we where heading into the delivery room. She was then to call the parents and other relatives.

Z4P Note: have your shit together … extra cash, baby bag, mom’s bag, gas in the truck or car, pack a lunch or snacks.. be ready to go out the door…

Note: Don’t not stop at the ATM for cash…. or …Starbucks for coffee …. not a good beginning to child birth

No matter what you do and how ready you are you will not be prepared something will be wrong.
Pre-delivery when the pain comes … you are the most hated individual, nothing you can say or do will be good and every loving moment is now out the window.

She doesn’t what to do this anymore..
She wants to go home now…
This hurt why didn’t you tell her..
I’m going to be fat…
Do you love me ..Yes… liar..
I look horrible … No you don’t …. liar
Tell the doctor to stop this …
I hate you for doing this to me ..
Your mom hates me …
You have to buy a Van … now..
I will never want to have sex again..
Feb 21, 2013 9:58am
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thavoice

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Feb 21, 2013 10:04 AM
First baby of the family they called when it happened.....3:33 in the morning, the rest it was the next dayt.
Feb 21, 2013 10:04am
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LJ

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Feb 21, 2013 10:16 AM
Texted when she was admitted because it was 4am. Called around 8am. No one was allowed at the hospital till she was in her post partum room. Even then it was immediate family only. Starting the next day it was a free for all cause its boring as shit being couped up in that damn room.
Feb 21, 2013 10:16am
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Fab4Runner

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Feb 21, 2013 10:24 AM
I plan to have my mom there with me if I am in labor. During the actual delivery? Who knows. And obviously it will all have to be discussed with the father of my child if/when that time comes. But I am 100% certain I will want my mother there.
Feb 21, 2013 10:24am
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jmog

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Feb 21, 2013 10:33 AM
Called when we were admitted, no one but me in the room because she had all c-sections.

She was only in serious labor for the first one, and Belly is correct. You can and will do nothing right when she is in pain, be prepared.

I will give a for instance that we still laugh about together.

It was July, she was having contractions every few minutes but zero dialation (reason she eventually had to have a c-section). Only the 2 of us were in the room at the time and she did not have any medication yet (no epideral).

I turned on the TV to watch the Indians (this was back when they were still good) and she lit into me on "how could I watch TV when she was going through contractions, etc etc". 15 minutes later she got her epideral and once she was feeling good she honestly looked at me and said "honey, why aren't you watching the Indians game? I thought there was one on?"

She was in that kind of pain during the contraction that she forgot what she had said...lol.
Feb 21, 2013 10:33am
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gut

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Feb 21, 2013 11:08 AM
Always a good idea to confirm that you're the father, first. Would be very awkward to show off a baby that looks more like the gardener or pool boy. And if you are too poor for such helpers, then no telling who the real father might be.
Feb 21, 2013 11:08am
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Con_Alma

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Feb 21, 2013 11:11 AM
...called when we left for the hospital and after the delivery.
Feb 21, 2013 11:11am
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Ironman92

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Feb 21, 2013 11:49 AM
Just us and medical staff in room. We called a communicated that she was going to the hospital after her water broke.....it was up to them when to come because it didn't really matter to us.
Feb 21, 2013 11:49am
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Feb 21, 2013 1:07 PM
My wife wanted her mom in the room during delivery for both our kids. I didn't care. Both of ours were induced so we knew when it would happen. My mom waited in the waiting room till after delivery. Rest of family the next day.
Feb 21, 2013 1:07pm
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fan_from_texas

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Feb 21, 2013 1:18 PM
Con_Alma;1393578 wrote:...called when we left for the hospital and after the delivery.

This. We held visitors until the next day. Your wife will need some rest
Feb 21, 2013 1:18pm
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Midstate01

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Feb 21, 2013 1:18 PM
Her parents planned to be here around her due date. She went over by 4 days so they were with us. They were in the room after the epidural and after a long night my wife and I both fell asleep . They woke us up to check to see how far along she was and they were like oh wow youre at 10cm, let's push. So it happened very quickly. Im not sure she really wanted both her parents in there but it happened very quickly and it didn't bother me. They also let everyone know when she was born and I posted it on a family page we have on fb. Worst part of living 6000 miles from home was not being able to share our first born and the first grandchild with the family.
Feb 21, 2013 1:18pm
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Feb 21, 2013 8:30 PM
As with Con alma and FFT....We called our parents when we went in and after delivery. They came at the earliest convienient time. Nobody 'rushed' to the hospital or sat around waiting in the hospital.
I don't understand the 'mother thing' (no offense)....I love my mother in law...but the birth of our children was between me and my wife. I was there with her during labor and in the delivery room.


One thing about etiquette about momentous events of importance...births, deaths etc. Don't rush to facebook and splash it all over the internet until people have a chance to make personal phone calls to people of importance.
Feb 21, 2013 8:30pm
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Cat Food Flambe'

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Feb 21, 2013 9:17 PM
About six weeks before. Scheduled C-sections have have a few advantages.
Feb 21, 2013 9:17pm
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Fab4Runner

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Feb 22, 2013 8:28 AM
HitsRus;1393895 wrote:As with Con alma and FFT....We called our parents when we went in and after delivery. They came at the earliest convienient time. Nobody 'rushed' to the hospital or sat around waiting in the hospital.
I don't understand the 'mother thing' (no offense)....I love my mother in law...but the birth of our children was between me and my wife. I was there with her during labor and in the delivery room.


One thing about etiquette about momentous events of importance...births, deaths etc. Don't rush to facebook and splash it all over the internet until people have a chance to make personal phone calls to people of importance.
I understand that aspect, and like I said, it will obviously need to be a discussion between me and the eventual father of my children. But, I am very close to my mother and I know I will want her there for the majority of my laboring. No offense to you (or any other man), but you haven't pushed a baby out of your vagina. When I am sick and/or in pain, I want my mom there. Doesn't matter how old I am.
Feb 22, 2013 8:28am
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HitsRus

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Feb 22, 2013 8:47 AM
^^^It wouldn't have been a 'dealbreaker' if my wife had insisted on having her mother there...but it can be a moment of intense intimacy and (for lack of a better term)'bonding' between a husband and wife. Going thru that experience together can take the relationship to a higher level. Not to get 'biblical' or religious here, but there is a lot of truth in the passage (paraphrase) that a man leave his mother, and a woman leave her family and cling to each other. JMHO. On the other side of the coin, I feel even more strongly about the paper tigers who take credit for making a baby(lol)....but won't go to childbirth classes, or refuse to go into the delivery room to help and comfort their wives at such a critical time.
Feb 22, 2013 8:47am
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fan_from_texas

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Feb 22, 2013 9:25 AM
I agree with both of the above. A lot depends on the father and the grandmother-to-be. In our case, Mrs. FFT and I went to a 3-hour class every Saturday morning for months leading up to it, did the exercises at home, read multiple books, etc. If some guy wasn't particularly involved and just wanted to show up and shout bland encouragement from time-to-time while playing on his phone, I can absolutely understand why a girl would rather have her mom there. Depending on how you choose to give birth, though, your experience may be VERY different than your mom's experience, and the advice she gives may not be particularly relevant (e.g., Mrs. FFT gave birth naturally--no meds. We had people who suggested we bring along a travel chess board to give us something to do while waiting, which is something that may be good advice if you're getting an epidural, but absolutely mind-bogglingly stupid advice if you're going without drugs. YMMV, but everyone has advice about childbirth, some of it bad, some of it good).
Feb 22, 2013 9:25am
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Fab4Runner

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Feb 22, 2013 10:41 AM
I absolutely understand where both of you are coming from. For me, it's not about preferring to have one there over the other. I want them both there for the laboring. As far as the delivery, I have no problem with it just being the father and myself. I am not having children anytime soon, so all of this is hypothetical and will need to be discussed if/when the time comes.
Feb 22, 2013 10:41am
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Feb 22, 2013 12:29 PM
First son born 1:30 am. We called around 7am next morning. Our parents showesd up a few hrs later. 2nd son born 6pm. Grandma had son #1 so most knew. Our parents came up around 8-8:30. No! To any one else in room. No! To finding out what your having before hand. GREATEST SUPRISE YOU WILL EVER HAVE IN LIFE!!
Feb 22, 2013 12:29pm
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iluvz

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Feb 24, 2013 7:52 PM
First three, had no one at hospital but us. That was a time for us and baby. Let everyone know when they came, but didn't have visitors for at least 10 hours. I wanted to know every inch of my babies before we had to share them. And no one was allowed to visit before their big brothers got to come see them. My last one, I had a lot of complications the entire pregnancy and was induced almost a month early. My mom was at hospital just in case, and for support for both he and myself if needed. But didn't stay in the room with us. Everything went ok, so she came in briefly after and then left till we were ready for visitors.

And too late for this one, but SF is right... It is the most amazing thing ever waiting and being surprised.
Feb 24, 2013 7:52pm
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Tiernan

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Feb 24, 2013 8:07 PM
When the kid can drive himself over to the in-laws and introduce himself.
Feb 24, 2013 8:07pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Feb 24, 2013 8:35 PM
iluvz;1395462 wrote:First three, had no one at hospital but us.
What about the last 9?

/sleeper'd
Feb 24, 2013 8:35pm