For the record, this is purely hypothetical. This didn't happen to me, but I've always wondered how I'd handle it and wanted to see what you guys thought.

So you're out to eat with this girl you just recently meant and have been talking to. The idea of dating is there, but you're still in the 'getting to know you' stage and setting up a base. The topic of past relationships comes up. She admits her last relationship was spoiled because she cheated on the guy. Further prying reveals the relationship was otherwise "fine" -- there was nothing that the guy did that drove her to that; it was completely her own doing. Let's also suppose this was a matter of months ago (3-6)

So what's your next move? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Can she learn from her past? To me, you can approach the situation with two viewpoints:
1) That was the past, that was them, that was him. This is different. She's changed, more mature, this won't happen.
2) Obviously this girl has issues to cheat on an otherwise decent guy, who's to say I'm not next?

I'm just curious as to how you guys would handle this? I don't think I could get away from viewpoint 1. I would stay up at night wondering if the same would happen to me.

We know how Ginuwine feels: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ny0uQQq3bw

PIHB

.. She might have been dating a nerd like Justin who did nothing but put her feet to sleep. I'd hit it and then move on!

If she is hot then just use her for sex and dont get too involved emotionally.

If she isnt....then let her go. If she cheated on a BF whom she had no other complaints about then she will cheat again.

There are people who feel a need to always be in a relationship. We all know them, people who hang on even though they aren't really into that person, and actively continue to look for something better.

Otherwise, your hypothetical is practically inconceivable. I can't imagine a woman volunteering this, and even then she would have rationalized it in some way that it wasn't her fault.

gut;867346 wrote:I can't imagine a woman volunteering this, and even then she would have rationalized it in some way that it wasn't her fault.

Touche.

Something involving fire would be the best (and only) solution.

thavoice;867339 wrote:If she is hot then just use her for sex and dont get too involved emotionally.

If she isnt....then let her go. If she cheated on a BF whom she had no other complaints about then she will cheat again.

Her "hotness" makes no difference here. Use her for sex regardless and then let her go.

ttiwwp

I'd kindly and respectfully walk away.

justincredible;867362 wrote:Her "hotness" makes no difference here. Use her for sex regardless and then let her go.

When I said hotness I meant someone who isnt revolting and ya dont need to be wearing beer goggles to hook up.

Totally unrelated, but I had a girl tell me on a first date that she secretly loved black men with giant penises. And, that she just wanted to put that out there before it came up later. It was odd to say the least.

Is she retarded???

If she is, you have to throw her on the "matt" and giver her one ( or two)....

Run!!!!

friendfromlowry;866101 wrote:...

So you're out to eat with this girl you just recently meant and have been talking to. ...

If I "just recently met" her and am exploring dating her there's no reason for her to tell me her past relationship info nor do I want to know it at this stage. I simply let her know that and continue with dinner.

gut;867346 wrote:... I can't imagine a woman volunteering this, ...

Agreed. Just by volunteering it tells me much about her.

Oh boy, here we go again....

Con_Alma;867491 wrote:If I "just recently met" her and am exploring dating her there's no reason for her to tell me her past relationship info nor do I want to know it at this stage. I simply let her know that and continue with dinner.

No one cares.

I would continue dating her and cheat on her ( sister or best friend ) and then tell her see now you know how it feels biotch!

Heelz;867518 wrote:I would continue dating her and cheat on her ( sister or best friend ) and then tell her see now you know how it feels biotch!

My dad did that to a female telemarketer one time. He's fairly chatty, so he actually was carrying on a conversation with her and found out all kinds of basic things. So, he then says that he wants to order some huge amount of whatever product was being sold, which would be a huge commission bonus to her. He then asks, "If you're mad at your husband, do you give him the cold shoulder?" The answer must have been yes, because he then says, "Well, this is what a cock tease feels like!" and hangs up on her.

Steel Valley Football;867450 wrote:Totally unrelated, but I had a girl tell me on a first date that she secretly loved black men with giant penises. And, that she just wanted to put that out there before it came up later. It was odd to say the least.

I bet you were elated to hear that, being ya both have the same secret love.

Devils Advocate;867460 wrote:Is she retarded???

If she is, you have to throw her on the "matt" and giver her one ( or two)....

But only if she knows the Kama Sutra !!!

Steel Valley Football;867450 wrote:Totally unrelated, but I had a girl tell me on a first date that she secretly loved black men with giant penises. And, that she just wanted to put that out there before it came up later. It was odd to say the least.

I'd assume you didn't bang her since you'd be a ridiculous disappointment to her. Boom.

thavoice;867525 wrote:I bet you were elated to hear that, being ya both have the same secret love.

The only thing I have in common with five black men with giant penises is that we all banged your mom.

Steel Valley Football;867635 wrote:The only thing I have in common with five black men with giant penises is that we all banged your mom.

I don't always subscribe to the "Once a cheater..." theory. I cheated on a girl in college. It was so bad she walked into the dorm room and caught me in the act. My ex-girlfriend ran out of the dorm in tears. From that day forward I vowed to never do it again..... 18 years later and I never have cheated (although I have had my chances to do so).

That being said, this girl sounds like she is not relationship-worthy. As someone else said, PIHB and be done with her. From what you stated it doesn't sound like it will be too difficult of a feat to tackle.