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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Jun 23, 2010 10:25 AM
What exactly is wrong with just enjoying going out with someone.. hooking up.. hanging around each other. Why can't that just be enjoyed? wtf is marriage going to do for you? Do you really think it's going to improve things? I've seen no indication of this. Why is "not going anywhere" a bad thing? What does a ring on ur finger do for you to improve on what you already have goin on?
Jun 23, 2010 10:25am
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karen lotz

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Jun 23, 2010 10:27 AM
Things have moved quickly with the Russian cart girl?
Jun 23, 2010 10:27am
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Jun 23, 2010 10:28 AM
No but they will friday.. even if she doesn't know it yet.
Jun 23, 2010 10:28am
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karen lotz

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Jun 23, 2010 10:30 AM
oh she knows alright
Jun 23, 2010 10:30am
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enigmaax

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Jun 23, 2010 10:53 AM
"Why do relationships HAVE to progress?"

Because women are psycho.
Jun 23, 2010 10:53am
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raiderbuck

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Jun 23, 2010 10:57 AM
Women need security. Men need food, sex, and sleep. Thats it.
Jun 23, 2010 10:57am
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ernest_t_bass

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Jun 23, 2010 11:02 AM
What raiderbuck said. Women need security. Hell, some men do too.
Jun 23, 2010 11:02am
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Jun 23, 2010 11:04 AM
It's not always the woman. One huge issue in my last relationship stemmed from my boyfriend wanting to be more serious than I did. He is 6 years older than I am and was ready to settle down. I wasn't. Which is a good thing because we were a terrible couple. We always had fun but fought all the time. He was an asshole and I didn't put a lot of effort into making it work, either. If I had been the type of girl that loved the idea of moving in and getting married I probably would have gone along with it. I am glad that wasn't the case.

Relationships don't have to progress. There are men AND women out there who feel that way. The trick is for 2 people that have that outlook to find each other.
Jun 23, 2010 11:04am
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ernest_t_bass

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Jun 23, 2010 11:15 AM
Apparently women aren't all FOR their men sleeping with random sluts. It's stupid, I think.
Jun 23, 2010 11:15am
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Jun 23, 2010 1:25 PM
Most of the time I think things progress because one person feels an undying pressure to do something drastic to either A) hold onto somebody; B) keep things from getting stale or C) do it because that's what you think the other person wants eventhough you have no idea.

On all three fronts you're pretty much fucked
Jun 23, 2010 1:25pm
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Jun 23, 2010 1:27 PM
darbypitcher22;398659 wrote:Most of the time I think things progress because one person feels an undying pressure to do something drastic to either A) hold onto somebody; B) keep things from getting stale or C) do it because that's what you think the other person wants eventhough you have no idea.

On all three fronts you're pretty much fucked

My gf and i have progressed to the point where i am proposing very soon because we want to start a family together and spend the rest of our lives together. Neither of us are experiencing any of the 3 things you just listed. Maybe that is why 20 year old relationships progress, but not mature relationships.
Jun 23, 2010 1:27pm
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Jun 23, 2010 1:38 PM
^^^^

didn't say all the time. Just speaking from my experience.

Congrats to you
Jun 23, 2010 1:38pm
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Jun 23, 2010 1:49 PM
If you want a casual relationship, that's fine. But you need to find someone with the same attitude. You can't expect that just because you don't think marriage can do anything for you, that your prospective partner should HAVE to agree with you. You can save a lot of people, including yourself, problems if you just be up front early in a relationship.


I have to concur with LJ, and I sure as hll don't think it is an A, B,or C kind of thing as listed by darby. I've been married for almost 30 years to the same woman and raised a great family. I can't imagine living under any other cirsumstances. But your values and agenda has to be the same.
Jun 23, 2010 1:49pm
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Jun 23, 2010 1:55 PM
HitsRus;398714 wrote:If you want a casual relationship, that's fine. But you need to find someone with the same attitude. You can't expect that just because you don't think marriage can do anything for you, that your prospective partner should HAVE to agree with you. You can save a lot of people, including yourself, problems if you just be up front early in a relationship.


Well you never know about the future so it's hard to put it out there upfront.
Jun 23, 2010 1:55pm
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Jun 23, 2010 2:24 PM
LJ;398667 wrote:My gf and i have progressed to the point where i am proposing very soon because we want to start a family together and spend the rest of our lives together. Neither of us are experiencing any of the 3 things you just listed. Maybe that is why 20 year old relationships progress, but not mature relationships.

This.
Jun 23, 2010 2:24pm
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Timber

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Jun 23, 2010 2:41 PM
Wow.... Things progress because it is a natural progression in a relationship. Sure it does not mean that the relationship has to progress to a more serious level.... but it is a natural progression if it continues at all.

When one is less interested in ones self, and gives unconditional love to another... then this question is answered. It should not happen overnight (see stalkers,) but an unforced progression. One has to be willing to have their heart ( and balls) crushed by putting it out on the line, but that is what makes love so grand.

Picture a graph... as a person... the line either goes up (improving as a person) or down (getting weaker/worse as a person.) If you flatline... you are dead. A relationship generally mirrors this graph. A couple's relationship is either improving or declining... but if it flatlines it probably will not last. It begs to move in one direction, or the other. JMO
Jun 23, 2010 2:41pm
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Jun 23, 2010 4:26 PM
Progression for a female

talk
dinner/ movie
texting
meet your friends
Intercourse mett your family
spend the night
spend the weekend
weekend trip
Oral sex
spend a week
engagement
marriage


Progression for a man

Intercourse
oral sex
Butt sex..... end of progression
Jun 23, 2010 4:26pm
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Jun 23, 2010 4:28 PM
Thread Bomber;399036 wrote:Progression for a female



Progression for a man

Intercourse
oral sex
Butt sex..... end of progression

Pretty much covers it
Jun 23, 2010 4:28pm
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Jun 23, 2010 4:33 PM
If I'm making someone sandwiches, a little something in return is nice.
Jun 23, 2010 4:33pm
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Jun 23, 2010 6:25 PM
ernest_t_bass;398348 wrote:What raiderbuck said. Women need security. Hell, some men do too.
My buddy is a security type. Fucking POS>
ernest_t_bass;398372 wrote:Apparently women aren't all FOR their men sleeping with random sluts. It's stupid, I think.
yeah, I wish girls would be loyal while i'm doing what i want.
power i;399069 wrote:If I'm making someone sandwiches, a little something in return is nice.

remember those new pots and pans? there ya go.
Jun 23, 2010 6:25pm
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sleeper

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Jun 23, 2010 6:26 PM
I've always wondered this as well.
Jun 23, 2010 6:26pm
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Jun 23, 2010 6:55 PM
Women are like birds once they nest its over. Take the shit to the trash if they leave it at the house.
Jun 23, 2010 6:55pm
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Jun 23, 2010 7:26 PM
ZWICK 4 PREZ;398287 wrote:No but they will friday.. even if she doesn't know it yet.

Calm down Kobe.
Jun 23, 2010 7:26pm
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ZWICK 4 PREZ

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Jun 23, 2010 8:18 PM
brutus161;399278 wrote:Calm down Kobe.

well played
Jun 23, 2010 8:18pm