First FreeHuddle Engagement Thread

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TBone14
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Nov 19, 2009 6:29pm
Popped the question yesterday. An easy yes. Any wedding planning advice other than stay out of the way?
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dave
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Nov 19, 2009 6:38pm
the quicker the wedding the better. try for a late spring date.
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thePITman
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Nov 19, 2009 7:18pm
Congratulations!
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Rotinaj
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Nov 19, 2009 7:31pm
Congrats from an old friend that used to DOMINATE u in poker, KY. Have a date yet??
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TBone14
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Nov 19, 2009 7:46pm
Rotinaj wrote: Congrats from an old friend that used to DOMINATE u in poker, KY. Have a date yet??
That's not exactly how I remember it. There is no date set.
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ss7
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Nov 19, 2009 11:12pm
TBone14 wrote: Popped the question yesterday. An easy yes. Any wedding planning advice other than stay out of the way?
You need to find a balance between staying out of things that you don't have a say in and acting interested enough when you should. Help make some decisions so that you are involved but don't be too involved. Speak when spoken to. Most importantly, if there is something you feel very strongly for or against, speak up. Also, Congrats.
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newarkcatholicfan
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Nov 20, 2009 12:31am
Congratulations!
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SQ_Crazies
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Nov 20, 2009 12:37am
Mistake! So long sucker!

;) Good luck man.
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sherm03
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Nov 20, 2009 12:57am
Congrats man!

SS is right...you have to give your input on some things...but you also have to let the little lady make most of the decisions. You have to realize that she's been dreaming of this her whole life and probably knows exactly what she wants and how she wants things to look.

But when she suggests getting married in the fall on a Saturday...you need to speak up and squash that quick!

Best of luck man.
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dwccrew
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Nov 20, 2009 1:00am
Another one bites the dust............
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NNN
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Nov 20, 2009 2:18am
TBone14 wrote: Popped the question yesterday. An easy yes. Any wedding planning advice other than stay out of the way?
Yes.

Go to Vegas. If she'd like, I can provide references from ten different couples whose first words after coming back from their honeymoon were "I wish we'd just eloped instead".

I've never met a couple who's eloped by choice and later regretted it. Maybe regretted the marriage itself, but not having forgone flushing thousands of dollars down the drain for one day that they'll be too stressed and/or drunk to remember.
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MANAZE
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Nov 20, 2009 2:23am
R U N!!!!!! no really RUN!!! as fast as you can!

Being married sucks after the first year than it gets better after year 3-5. Just remember yes honey and you'll do great.
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NNN
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Nov 20, 2009 2:26am
MANAZE wrote: R U N!!!!!! no really RUN!!! as fast as you can!

Being married sucks after the first year than it gets better after year 3-5. Just remember yes honey and you'll do great.
You sound like a real wuss.
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1_beast
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Nov 20, 2009 4:42am
MANAZE wrote: Just remember yes honey and you'll do great.
what a pussy...lol you wear the skirt ...and make your woman a sammich and get her a beer when she gets home;???? :D
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nc52
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Nov 20, 2009 6:54am
avoid wedding cake... it's the worst strongest form of birth control
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ss7
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Nov 20, 2009 7:48am
NNN wrote:
TBone14 wrote: Popped the question yesterday. An easy yes. Any wedding planning advice other than stay out of the way?
Yes.

Go to Vegas. If she'd like, I can provide references from ten different couples whose first words after coming back from their honeymoon were "I wish we'd just eloped instead".

I've never met a couple who's eloped by choice and later regretted it. Maybe regretted the marriage itself, but not having forgone flushing thousands of dollars down the drain for one day that they'll be too stressed and/or drunk to remember.
I can relate to this. I probably told my wife a dozen times in the year leading up to the wedding that we should have just gone to Vegas. The planning stage is a huge headache. I still can't believe how much pictures and flowers cost. It's criminal.
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vball10set
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Nov 20, 2009 8:00am
congrats Bone...it's a good,no,GREAT thing--marriage is awesome ;)
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Go4alOngbOmB
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Nov 20, 2009 8:13am
1st off congrats! Have a happy and healthy married life.

Second off, Im on the final lap of the wedding/reception rush. My young lady and I are getting married on January 11th in Las Vegas (Why not get the honeymoon and wedding in on the same trip?). Then we are coming home for a reception on the 16th....

All I can say is start early...REALLY early. It will save you a million headaches. Also, if she REALLY wants something, and you know it is something that just isnt going to work out, dont get angry, and dont for the love of GOD say its a dumb idea...that will land you on the couch for a few nights. Try to suggest something that doesnt suck quite as much...and hope she goes for it. (This is how I avoided having pink and purple as the wedding colors....I dodged a HUGE bullet right there)

My last bit of advice...dont let the stress get to you. Something somewhere is GOING TO GO WRONG....more than likely more than one thing will go wrong. Just go with the flow, be ready to change on the fly...and enjoy the process...because hopefully we will only have to go through it once.
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McFly1955
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Nov 20, 2009 8:24am
I got married just over a year ago.

Keep the wedding small, IMO. Don't overspend on the food/drinks (we didn't have drinks, we were footing the bill, and very few of the 100 people invited were drinkers).

Ignore your parents and her parents...They just want to have power and it's annoying, but you basically just have to ignore them...If they are paying for the wedding, then they can have an input, but they also cant 'buy' the power to do whatever they want on your wedding day.
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Scarlet_Buckeye
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Nov 20, 2009 10:17am
Congratulations!
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Nate
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Nov 20, 2009 10:28am
I'm sorry. :(
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darbypitcher22
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Nov 20, 2009 10:49am
Enjoy certain activites like Golf, Beer with your buddies, etc. while you can. Pretty soon they'll all be gone.
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TBone14
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Nov 20, 2009 12:25pm
darbypitcher22 wrote: Enjoy certain activites like Golf, Beer with your buddies, etc. while you can. Pretty soon they'll all be gone.
I doubt that. We have been living together for two years and I've done all those things still..I don't think that making it official will change anything.

Some great advice and it is appreciated. My uncle eloped in Vegas and then threw a huge bash when they got home...they loved it, but I don't know if thats what she wants to do. We lived in Vegas for a year and have friends there..I would like it to do that and whoever can come is welcome and then throw some sort of reception later.
I can relate to this. I probably told my wife a dozen times in the year leading up to the wedding that we should have just gone to Vegas. The planning stage is a huge headache. I still can't believe how much pictures and flowers cost. It's criminal.
The thought of spending thousands of dollars on flowers is truly appalling. Photos I can live with since they will last forever