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bwcomet89

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May 24, 2011 3:27 AM
I just found out that my ex-girlfriend is getting married. In most generic cases, that would mean nothing to anyone, but I had the ring picked out for her and was only weeks away from buying it, doing the whole romantic getaway, etc... Unnecessary details, but I was just curious if this had happened to anyone on here? If so, what did you do about it? Or at least what went through your mind? For me, all I feel is immense, incomprehensible, unbounded rage in a way I have a hard time conveying in words. But that's just me.

I know the dude, and no, he's no winner. Before anyone tries that angle.

However, I do appreciate anyone who has a story. Ready, go.
May 24, 2011 3:27am
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Murdski99

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399 posts
May 24, 2011 3:48 AM
grab a bottle my friend
May 24, 2011 3:48am
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Manhattan Buckeye

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7,566 posts
May 24, 2011 4:00 AM
Forget her. Time heals all wounds. The bottle is a temporary solution (not that I recommend it, unless it is good liquor/beer in which case by all means). A more long-term solution is to get yourself in good shape physically and mentally - to the point that it is like a regular job. It will improve your health and self-confidence.
May 24, 2011 4:00am
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bwcomet89

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May 24, 2011 4:08 AM
I have been trying to get into good physical shape and just hoping the mental stuff comes along afterwards. The physical stuff has hit a snag since I jacked my shoulder in a football game a few weeks ago. I may sound like a huge douche, but she's the girl I haven't been real successful at getting over. Like I hold her as the standard for the other girls I've dated, stuff like that. It's just kind of a shitty feeling.

For the record I'm hoping to not use alcohol to deal with this. That's what I tried before and it didn't work so well. Just drug it out.
May 24, 2011 4:08am
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Curly J

Self Pwner in Training.

7,282 posts
May 24, 2011 4:43 AM
No long story...My Ex Wife has been married twice since we divorced...and divorced twice. ( I'm glad I got out early)
May 24, 2011 4:43am
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sleeper

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27,879 posts
May 24, 2011 5:27 AM
You gotta let it go man sheesh. I know its tough, but make a million dollars and you won't give a hoot about her anymore. I guarantee it.
May 24, 2011 5:27am
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Shane Falco

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440 posts
May 24, 2011 6:01 AM
Crash the wedding!
May 24, 2011 6:01am
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Con_Alma

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12,198 posts
May 24, 2011 6:17 AM
There's a reason she's your ex.
May 24, 2011 6:17am
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ernest_t_bass

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24,984 posts
May 24, 2011 6:51 AM
Do her fiancé.
May 24, 2011 6:51am
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derek bomar

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May 24, 2011 7:13 AM
I am pretty sure this happens to a majority of people at some point...so you're in good company. I have no idea if my ex is married or not, but I did have an awkward run in with her last summer. Long story short, I went to hs with my ex and dated her throughout undergrad. I cheated a lot, but I really did care about her (makes no sense...but it was college). So we eventually broke up right after college bc I think she got wind of my dbaggery. Fast forward 5 years, and a mutual friend of ours invites me to her wedding (the friend, not the ex's). The ex is a bridesmaid, and I bring my current gf. Was just awkward as hell the whole night, and I'm not real sure why I was even invited. Her current dude looks nothing like me, so I guess that's a good thing.
May 24, 2011 7:13am
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O-Trap

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14,994 posts
May 24, 2011 7:19 AM
My girlfriend broke up with me while I had the ring in my pocket.

She was also the first of us to get married and the first to have children. Many times, it felt like she left me and has done better at moving on with her life.

But I've got to tell you, it's been 9 years since we broke up, and I don't even really think about her anymore. She and her husband seem happy. I am happy with my wife.

Just give it time. I know that's the last thing you want to hear, but just hold out. If nothing else, pick something and keep yourself very busy. It will help take your mind off it.
May 24, 2011 7:19am
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LJ

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May 24, 2011 7:22 AM
And ex and I broke up in November 2008, a new guy started at her work Jan 1 2009 , they were married in March 2009 and had a kid sometime last spring.

I guess they started dating as soon as they met, then he proposed after 2 months and they went to the court house. I dodged that nutjob.
May 24, 2011 7:22am
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derek bomar

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May 24, 2011 7:28 AM
LJ;778473 wrote:And ex and I broke up in November 2008, a new guy started at her work Jan 1 2009 , they were married in March 2009 and had a kid sometime last spring.

I guess they started dating as soon as they met, then he proposed after 2 months and they went to the court house. I dodged that nutjob.

I've heard of fast, but god damn
May 24, 2011 7:28am
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Rotinaj

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May 24, 2011 7:30 AM
Go to the wedding and do her bridesmaids.
May 24, 2011 7:30am
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THE4RINGZ

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16,816 posts
May 24, 2011 7:56 AM
Better to find out she is a bitch like that before you married her not afterward.
May 24, 2011 7:56am
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Commander of Awesome

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23,151 posts
May 24, 2011 8:18 AM
O-Trap;778472 wrote:My girlfriend broke up with me while I had the ring in my pocket.

That's brutal man. That is probably worst case scenario. Did she ever find out that you had it in your pocket?
May 24, 2011 8:18am
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enigmaax

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May 24, 2011 8:48 AM
bwcomet89;778443 wrote:I just found out that my ex-girlfriend is getting married. In most generic cases, that would mean nothing to anyone, but I had the ring picked out for her and was only weeks away from buying it, doing the whole romantic getaway, etc... Unnecessary details, but I was just curious if this had happened to anyone on here? If so, what did you do about it? Or at least what went through your mind? For me, all I feel is immense, incomprehensible, unbounded rage in a way I have a hard time conveying in words. But that's just me.

So why did she dump you?

And my general philosophy on exes of any kind is, "she's someone else's problem now".
May 24, 2011 8:48am
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O-Trap

Chief Shenanigans Officer

14,994 posts
May 24, 2011 8:51 AM
Commander of Awesome;778495 wrote:That's brutal man. That is probably worst case scenario. Did she ever find out that you had it in your pocket?
Nope.

On the plus side, I was able to return it. Sucked though.
May 24, 2011 8:51am
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Frothy Walrus

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May 24, 2011 8:58 AM
This thread is sorting the men from the vaginas, that's for sure. :D

Make a voodoo doll of her. Poke, prod, molest....set on fire as needed for comfort. WWJD? JWD that.

Oh and sneak into her apartment while she is sleeping, clip a piece of her hair and store in a small bag for sniffing when you really get down.
May 24, 2011 8:58am
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bigkahuna

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May 24, 2011 9:16 AM
I got married before my ex-girlfriend got married, but she met her husband before I met my wife.

I too was filled with rage when she started dating her dude because they got together literally the day after we broke up, and he went to school with us. I along with a lot of other people in the school literally thought he was gay, which is probably why it pissed me off so much.

I think a lot of times, we see who our ex's wind up with and get pissed because they're bigger dbags then we were.
May 24, 2011 9:16am
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Commander of Awesome

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23,151 posts
May 24, 2011 9:40 AM
O-Trap;778516 wrote:Nope.

On the plus side, I was able to return it. Sucked though.

Yeah for sure, thank god you saved the receipt.
May 24, 2011 9:40am
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Heretic

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May 24, 2011 9:41 AM
BURN. HER. HOUSE. DOWN.
May 24, 2011 9:41am
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vball10set

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May 24, 2011 9:42 AM
fuck her and feed her cheese...move on, man!!!
May 24, 2011 9:42am
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thavoice

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May 24, 2011 9:45 AM
bwcomet89;778443 wrote:I just found out that my ex-girlfriend is getting married. In most generic cases, that would mean nothing to anyone, but I had the ring picked out for her and was only weeks away from buying it, doing the whole romantic getaway, etc... Unnecessary details, but I was just curious if this had happened to anyone on here? If so, what did you do about it? Or at least what went through your mind? For me, all I feel is immense, incomprehensible, unbounded rage in a way I have a hard time conveying in words. But that's just me.

I know the dude, and no, he's no winner. Before anyone tries that angle.

However, I do appreciate anyone who has a story. Ready, go.

Dude...the joke is on her now.....SHE is getting married. Let her and her new husband be miserable in marriage.
Her getting married is punishment enough.

Just look at it this way........its like you in a caravan of cars going down the highway at 90 MPH. A cop pulls out and turns on his sirens....and picks out someone else. You know the relief and excitement that some other foool got it?

That is how you should feel about your ex getting married.....just happy that is isnt you!
May 24, 2011 9:45am
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Thread Bomber

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1,851 posts
May 24, 2011 9:49 AM
Heretic;778564 wrote:BURN. HER. HOUSE. DOWN.
This.

I am partial to any solution tha involves fire, booze, or drugs. ( all three is an epic win!)
May 24, 2011 9:49am