Poll: Your eternal resting place

posted by BR1986FB

Cremated but I told my lady "make sure I'm friggin dead. If you burn me alive, you'll pay."

Would you rather be burned alive or buried alive?

I smell a spin-off thread .

- Mrs. Z and Iare  traditional folks, so we'll go with burial in our church cemetery, which abuts our neighborhood.  Both our mothers are buried there, and my dad will be one day, so we bought our own plots.  It also overlooks our high school football field, where I've been PA announcing for the last quarter-century.  Maybe I'll have her cremate my microphone hand and put a small urn up in the pressbox.  

But, she has carte blanche to burn or preserve.  I did suggest she rent a casket for the visitation, then bury me in a cardboard box.  Don't spend too much on it, it'll all corrode eventually.  Same advice to our sons if they end up handling it.  

- As a Christian, I'm not concerned about how my physical body is disposed of after death, since the conscious part me (soul) will be in heaven, not on earth, and I won't know about it for a while.   The Bible says God will eventually resurrect that body and give it back to me, so I'm trusting He can find the pieces and put them back together when the time comes.

- From a biblical standpoint, I haven't read any mandate for disposal of a body, other than to be respectful.  Cremation or burial, doesn't really matter.  My secular understanding of biblical times was that some Jewish tombs were "recycled", so that several people might end up being buried in one - they just wait for the body to decompose, push the residue off the burial stone into a small pit, and re-use the stone for the next one.  

- Hearing "cremation" makes me think of the Family Matters episode when Carl accidentally dumped the contents of Aunt Clotilde's urn into a trash bag, thinking it was from the fireplace.  He had to do some fancy stepping explaining that to Harriet.

- I appreciate visitations, been going to a lot of them lately, both for friends and classmates, but also their parents.  Those of us who go joke it's the only time we get to have a class reunion, but I think it's important the survivors know their mates care about them.

- I can think of two funerals where the open casket shouldn't have been done - one was my first grandfather in WV.  He was fine during the visitation, but they opened him up two days later at the church service and his face had turned yellow.  The other was a co-worker killed in a whitewater rafting accident a decade ago - her face was beaten to a pulp by the rocks, but the family insisted on open-casket.  I was dismayed.  In life she was a beautiful lady, but the face in the casket looked like a grotesque, stuffed rag doll.

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Wait a sec - what smell????  Are we talking small-town funeral homes where they don't know to embalm?  Wow.  Honestly, I've never noticed anything, uh, odd in any parlor I've gone to - thank goodness!

posted by BR1986FB

Cremated but I told my lady "make sure I'm friggin dead. If you burn me alive, you'll pay."

As long as you hide her diamonds elsewhere, you should be okay.

There’s definitely a smell. It’s not necessarily “bad” but It’s distinct and I don’t like it. 

posted by justincredible

Would you rather be burned alive or buried alive?

I smell a spin-off thread .

Is "neither" an option here?

posted by BR1986FB

Is "neither" an option here?

Best I can do is add drowning as an option.

All of those over floating off into the abyss of space. Fuck that nonesense. 

posted by Zunardo

As long as you hide her diamonds elsewhere, you should be okay.

Nice reference!

Whatever is cheapest for my loved ones.  They don't need to drop a lot of coin on me if I'm gone.  As I sit here today, I really don't care. 

posted by Laley23

All of those over floating off into the abyss of space. Fuck that nonesense. 

I'd much rather do that, I think.

posted by justincredible

I'd much rather do that, I think.

Without a suit sure. But if my space station just starts to float or teether line breaks, no thanks. That could be months of just knowing and waiting. I'd much rather just go within minutes.

posted by Laley23

Without a suit sure. But if my space station just starts to float or teether line breaks, no thanks. That could be months of just knowing and waiting. I'd much rather just go within minutes.

can always just take your suit off and end it right?

posted by kizer permanente

can always just take your suit off and end it right?

Yeah, pop off your helmet and it's done. It actually wouldn't be a bad way to go. Float around in space for a bit and then end it when you're ready.

I'm 100% incapable of doing that. 

I obviously cannot be sure I wouldn't get to that point. But based on 36 years of living, I would fight till the bitter end. Just don't have it in me to "pull the trigger".

posted by Laley23

I'm 100% incapable of doing that. 

I obviously cannot be sure I wouldn't get to that point. But based on 36 years of living, I would fight till the bitter end. Just don't have it in me to "pull the trigger".

Yeah that was going to be my question. How many people can do it? I don't think I could. 

Well, if the choice is that or being sent to the Soylent Green processing plant...

posted by kizer permanente

Yeah that was going to be my question. How many people can do it? I don't think I could. 

Given the alternative? Give me the quick, sweet relief of death.

I go back and forth. I'm a Mason and burial is a big part of the ritual. Then again, cremation is appealing as it is lower cost and just easier. 

Wife says she would like to be buried as she doesn't want to be cremated. But, that was a few years ago.  Now, that we moved back to Ohio, we need to really update our options. Her family ran a funeral home for years, so not sure if we are buried, where it would be, her hometown or Cbus. 

I want to be put in one of those vault things in a wall. I don’t want my casket to be underground. 

I will say cremation is not always cheap. When my brother died of an overdose we decided on cremation Because we did t want a service because we didn’t know who would show up and didn’t want the drug friends to show up. Instead we did a party at a brewery ordered food and invited family and his lifelong friends. The cremation cost ranged from like $550 where they cremated and put you in what looks like a file holder  to 10k for the same file holder depending on location. In the suburbs they wanted between 6-10k for a basic cremation and holder. In the hood where I might also die picking up his remains it was as cheap as $550. We went with a place in the Short North area of Columbus that was about $1000 with an upgraded Urn and was in a safe area. We plan to spread his ashes but I will leave that up to when my mom is ready. 

posted by ptown_trojans_1

I go back and forth. I'm a Mason and burial is a big part of the ritual. Then again, cremation is appealing as it is lower cost and just easier. 

Wife says she would like to be buried as she doesn't want to be cremated. But, that was a few years ago.  Now, that we moved back to Ohio, we need to really update our options. Her family ran a funeral home for years, so not sure if we are buried, where it would be, her hometown or Cbus. 

Nice to see another Mason on here.